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Am I Too Harsh And Lack Compassion?

Am I Too Harsh And Lack Compassion?

Most who read my posts become very aware that I don't tend to sugar coat anything.

Maybe that is because I have been dealing with Diabetes my entire life. My Parents, Grandparents, Great-Grandparents, Uncles/Aunts and cousins all have/had diabetes, at least the overwhelming majority of them, so if you are a "normal" member of the family, you likewise have Diabetes.

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A DiabetesTeam Member said:


You are a godsend with practical tips and ongoing advice that is frank and realistic. My youngest memory is of grandfather"s toe amputations and heart attacks. My mother and aunt ended type 3 diabetes and that is type 2 diabetes with dementica and .this was wrenching and very real. It is a real battle and each of us needs to educate yourself yourselves along diet changes, exercising and supporting medications, if needed. .I was not surprised at my diagnosis but I ashamed that I let myself go while taking care of mother's multiple complications. Now two years later, I am 100 % healthier and 60 pounds lighter better than I have felt in 20 years. It is scary and battling the monster takes work each day.
I love your daily questions they keep me going.
I am so thankful for your friendship, support and ongoing education.

Colleen and Jeff

posted 7 months ago
A DiabetesTeam Member said:

Hey we are diabetics here we can't sugar coat anything. Your posts explain the reality of diabetes not what someone wants to here. You put info into a format that is easy for the average person to understand. I appreciate your posts. Glad you are on this site.

posted 7 months ago
A DiabetesTeam Member said:

I love your posts! I count on you not to sugar coat things. You bring in facts and hard core truths, you always bring in answers too. Still it is your humor. You make me laugh.
I don't come in here to be babied. I need real help from people who get everything I am going through as a diabetic.

And as to are you not compassionate enough? OMG dear there have been days when you have told me not to be so hard on myself and you have given me tips to help me always.
You aren't old enough to be my dad but I will sincerely tell you that you have very Fatherly energy! You are also "FAMILY" ( not by blood but, you are part of my Diabetic Family" I am so very grateful that you are on my life path.

So, no worries. Don't stop being all that you are!! In my book you are pretty awesome!

posted 7 months ago
A DiabetesTeam Member said:

I knew that diabetes was not an if, but a when for me. Both parents passed way too young because of poorly controlled blood glucose numbers from diabetes complications and comorbidities.

I am the oldest of 8 children. All my siblings were diagnosed diabetic many years ago. I am the last, diagnosed February 2021. My parents are my compelling reason to do what's necessary to control my diabetes journey.

I will not let diabetes control me. I will beat down my diabetes monster one baby step at a time daily. I can do baby steps.

I will never give up, never surrender, never ever.
You got this.
Have a blessed day.

posted 7 months ago
A DiabetesTeam Member said:

@A DiabetesTeam Member. You are the most compassionate person. You are like me, the more a person knows about their diseases, the better outcome. I have 18 diseases with no cure and 5 are autoimmune, so I try my hardest to learn as much as I can about them all, so that I can live the best life possible. When I joined this group in mid Oct 2019 I too was depressed, I was newly diagnosed diabetic in Aug 2019, by Oct 1st I landed in ER and finished my nursing career while on sick leave and retired early at age 55. I though I was going to retire early to try and prevent further complications, this was planned since Aug 2018, what I did not plan for was diabetes which came about 1 year later. As a nurse who graduated in 1988, we never had diabetes education, we still tested sugar levels with urine where you dipped a stick or paper and watched the color change and that was not as accurate. When blood glucometer came out, hospitals were the last to get them. So it scared me finding out I had diabetes for many reasons : 1) I knew nothing on what to eat or not, 2) what medications did for diabetes, 3) had no clue you can manage diabetes with diet alone. 4) Well as a nurse I saw only the other sides of diabetes, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN = all the bad things it caused people to be hospitalized for, because I was treating those patients, with every complications diabetes causes. So many amputations, wounds not healing (which is why when I saw such a wound on one of my toes become an ulcer, I knew I was diabetic and bought a machine and tested my sugar levels over 2 days and brought the glucometer to a doctor, I self diagnosed myself as diabetic as I saw the other side of it as a nurse. So yeah it scared me a lot not knowing what to do, I got depressed also as that was my 3rd sick leave in 2019. But because of people such as @A DiabetesTeam Member and many others in here, I only remained on diabetic medications for 9 months, as he teaches us how to be on the good side of diabetes and dietary changes and how to prevent complications. Without his posts I would still be so sick, yet my health is better then it has ever been even in blood tests results, not just diabetes wise but many other health issues improved. So sometimes it takes a good scare and education to face diabetes head on and battle till the end of our lives. What I saw in 35 yrs of health care, would scare people even more then words written on this site, BELIEVE ME, I had diabetic patients every single day I worked as a nurse, so if you do not want to end up like those people I cared for, scare yourself out of sugar coating it. It is what it is. I have 18 diseases with no cure and diabetes is the only one I can manage with diet alone. Believe me I wish they had cures for some of my other diseases. We have control of what we ingest, so lets own up to it.

posted 7 months ago
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