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Am I Too Harsh And Lack Compassion?
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Most who read my posts become very aware that I don't tend to sugar coat anything.

Maybe that is because I have been dealing with Diabetes my entire life. My Parents, Grandparents, Great-Grandparents, Uncles/Aunts and cousins all have/had diabetes, at least the overwhelming majority of them, so if you are a "normal" member of the family, you likewise have Diabetes.

It didn't mean your life was over. It didn't mean that you life was limited, it was simply a genetic trait no different then… read more

posted November 21, 2021
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@A DiabetesTeam Member
I am new to this social media and IMO (in my opinion) I do not believe that you are harsh or lack compassion.
I am Neurodivergent and the way my brain has always been "very forward". I feel being straightforward is adequate.
This isn't about getting liked or being friendly. This 'disease' doesn't give two hoots about that. It's you HAVE to change your lifestyle or bear the consequences.
I hope you have a good day. I do enjoy your posts. Stay Positive my friend.

posted November 22, 2022
A DiabetesTeam Member


You are a godsend with practical tips and ongoing advice that is frank and realistic. My youngest memory is of grandfather"s toe amputations and heart attacks. My mother and aunt ended type 3 diabetes and that is type 2 diabetes with dementica and .this was wrenching and very real. It is a real battle and each of us needs to educate yourself yourselves along diet changes, exercising and supporting medications, if needed. .I was not surprised at my diagnosis but I ashamed that I let myself go while taking care of mother's multiple complications. Now two years later, I am 100 % healthier and 60 pounds lighter better than I have felt in 20 years. It is scary and battling the monster takes work each day.
I love your daily questions they keep me going.
I am so thankful for your friendship, support and ongoing education.

Colleen and Jeff

posted November 23, 2021
A DiabetesTeam Member

@A DiabetesTeam Member I see it differently - too many are too afraid to tell Diabetics the truth - they don't instill any sense of how serious the condition actually is

But that is why I tend to preface any of my more "scared straight" posts with a warning for those that may not want to hear

I would rather be told the facts, even if they are somewhat upsetting - better to live with an honest answer then die because someone didn't want to hurt someone's feelings

But that is just me

Yesterday was at the doctors office (appt for my wife) was talking to a guy that was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer a couple weeks back - wasn't 65 years old yet

Now what if there had have been some "scared straight" advice they guy could have got a couple years back that may have at least delayed this diagnosis? Should the Doc worry about how it would make him feel or tell him what he needed to stay alive longer?

There is a time for hand holding, but when things start getting serious - when you are running out of treatment options somebody needs to stick to the facts and trust that the patient is able to decide for themselves - even if it's hurtful - alive hurts less than terminal

posted January 31, 2023 (edited)
A DiabetesTeam Member

Yes cost is a problem. I use erythritol sugar and it’s expensive. But that’s just for baking and if you like an indulgence. Otherwise I can eat low carb vegetables and meat, cheap if I can get it. Also cheese which I love and can eat a fair bit as I’m low carb and have no issues with cholesterol etc.

I also eat some processed food otherwise my diet can be very restricted and in any case the processed foods I eat are low carb.

posted February 9, 2023
A DiabetesTeam Member

At times I may be harsh but not intentional. I like to communicate with care and give empathy when needed. I want to live longer but not allow this illness to keep me from my destiny and desires so I take care of me 💕🥰 and I enjoy my life with my family, friends near and far also my personal Me Time and giving God his time of prayer 🙏, reading His words and applying them to my daily life. Loving and supporting others rather it's resources, a smile 🥰, a meal or change. I live my life of respect for others and return I get it back with joy in my heart. I also apologize when I'm wrong because it teaches me discipline of love and nurturing towards others. We humans and we're not perfect but I want to be right within myself.

posted October 30, 2022

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